My husband and i have been happily married 16 yrs..He has lied and kept stuff from me in the past nothing serious or bad like cheating,drugs,gambling or drinking just insignificant things..Last yr he lied about numerous things and got caught so i had a talk with him and he promise to stop this but it happened again so i had another talk with him and he promised to be open and honest with me from that moment on and he says he has and i hope so but should/can i trust him on this..Only in the last yr or so i have paid more attention to this situation then in yrs past i guess cause i caught in a few lies last yr before that i guess i never really pain attention to this much except something from 11 yrs that he kept from me until i found out another way it wasnt something bad like cheating.11 yrs ago he gave his 2 weeks notice at his last job,didnt have another lined and didnt tell me he did this..I found out when i was looking thru the want ads and found his job.
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Some people lie for no reason...if it bothers you, get councelling with him...if it's not a huge deal...just a nuciance...let it go.
so your husband has not been working for 11 years?? how do you manage your money ?? well if he is as good as a husband...he is one hell of a liar
Can an alcoholic or drug addict stop? Not without some strong intervention and professional help. It is not like they can just say I will stop and it is over.
But a it is a lot easier to just lie and say you are cured. You married a liar. Live with it. It was your mistake. He is unhappily happy being a liar so he does not want to change. Lying is not illegal and does not go against the 10 commandments. Has the President of the USA ever lied?
Okay ,you have to remember people lie to protect themselves from punishment. He already know that you will have a hissy fit if you found out he quit his job. And you also say he's been lying to you for years? well he has a problem. He's just plain ole' pathological. Maybe it's time you two seek counsel as this has caused a strain on the marriage, and the bases of a loving marriage is trust.
Good luck=
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