Has anyone sucessfully dated a person with aspergers?
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N4mwd, I am totally with you on that answer. I am 37 and still a bachelor and am under pressure to date and eventually get married.
While I would love to partake in those endeavors, my Aspergers does tend to get in the way. First off, I am very socially shy and to this day, it is the man that is suppose to make the first move. Secondly, I have problems with eye contact and face to face conversations and when the group gets bigger than four people, usually remain quiet and withdraw, for I can't decipher in my head all the chatter happening at the same time. Thirdly, I LOVE MY ROUTINE and love to plan my day out from dusk to dawn. I have to acknowledge that this kind of repetitiveness and anal planning is a big turn off to the vast majority of women.
BTW, it doesn't help that I, like most Aspies, enjoy being alone a good chunk of the day and actually have fun when alone.
Could you put what that is, please?
A very close friend of mine is doing that, in fact, she's now living with him. Strangely enough, he's an MD but can no longer actively practice because of his condition. I have met him and he's very shy, to the point of being unable to look you in the eye. He's extremely uncomfortable around others and can't wait to find a way to get away from everyone.
It is difficult to deal with persons like this as their inclination is to be quite anti-social.
And though you didn't ask, here's a brief description for others.
I can't imagine why not. People with severe autism have had relationships and even families. Aspergers is a mild neurological disorder, not leprosy. My son is 9 and has autism ranging just outside aspergers and I'm planning on many grandchildren someday!
Um, it is Aspergers, no b.
My husband is aspergers, and it can be hard at times. It's the small stuff that shouldn't matter, but builds up to the point of resentment.
I hate the fact that although he sees it as explaining, when I try and say why I'm upset. He just says I don't see that/or my brain doesn't work like that. AAARRRRGGGGGGHHHHHH!
It can be hard work, but then I think it's true of any relationship and it's just a case of finding someone who cares enough to try. I know particularly when you are in your early 20's most people just want to go out and have fun. I don't think I would have coped then with him.
i dont see why not, I actually think my husband has this, but hasn't been diagnosed! x
Yes, but its not common.
I'm an aspie. I've dated before, but never married. If you're an aspie and want to date, just remember that if you do, you should do it only because its really what you want and not because everyone else wants you to.
The main reason I was dating was because of a lot of social pressure from family and friends - "When are you going to get married?" was a common question. You get tired of hearing it and eventually you give in.
In my case, it was a bad decision. Once lust wears off, an aspie has nothing left to hold the relationship together. I was fortunate, but some end up with a wife and kids and then a nice divorce and child support payments.
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