Excessive attention seeking..Please help.?
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First, you are to be commended for your dedication to your stepson. You have already made a big difference in his little life.
Are there consequences when he misbehaves? When I was a kid, you were spanked or sent to your room until you behaved. My stepson did the same & he was a whiner! I would send him to the bathroom for 15 minutes. He was so bored & learned that he didn't like it! It took about 3 weekends to change his behavior.
As for temper tantrums, my grandma had a great remedy. My cousin screamed & threw himself on the floor. She would spank him and make him keep going. He had to continue to holler, kick and flail his arms. She made him do it until he was so tired, he couldn't move. He never threw another tantrum again!
I was a screamer. Again, grandma had a remedy. The entire family would surround me and scream back. I think they said it took 2 screams for me to decide I wouldn't ever scream again.
Kids have to know there are consequences for their actions. If you are rewarding bad behavior with attention, you are defeating the whole purpose. (when my daughter was young, she knew if she misbehaved, we would have a "conference" in the bathroom. That meant my hand and her rear were going to have a "talk".)
She works at a day care and said that you can tell which 2-3 yr olds do not get discipline at home. They do need boundaries and discipline. Then they know they are loved. (We used to be the house where all the kids would hang out & when it got dark, she would have to come in the house. The kids would tease her, "Haha, you have to go in..." One day, she turned to those kids "At least my mom cares where I am." All the discipline and talks really worked!!!
If all else fails, you can visit with a behavioral professional. Good luck & God bless.
You need to get this kid involved in some kind of activity - soccer, gymnastics, t-ball, and wear him out.
have him screened for attention deficit disorder (ADD) and attention deficit hyper activitiy disorder (ADHD). You said the checks were done by social services, and I assume you meant by qualified practitioners arranged by social services? Still, 3 years later they might be able to detect some things they couldn't at age 5.
ADD/ADHD can be helped a lot by a medication called Adderall. It's actually a stimulant that suprisingly helps kids calm down and talk less etc.
This is a very common condition and has probably been arround for a long long time. Just because they have a name for it now, doesn't mean it wasn't a problem before. Don't pooh pooh it like a lot of people do, because you, as his family, will get a huge benefit from the treatment along with it being the right thing to do for him as well.
I agree with kvh...he is possibly bored.drum lessons...music lessons of some sort? You also need to correct him when he interrupts. It is not appropriate for us to interrupt, therefore, as a child he has a right to taught the same.
He also may miss his mother.
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